Updated: Mar 15
There are million reasons to feel sad, but only a handful to feel happy.
We are solely to be blamed for this. Why? Because we have let others ruin our lives.
Do we not suffer emotionally and pretend to be happy so that we are socially accepted and be well respected amongst family and friends?
It's not easy to let go of toxic relationships. These relationships could be with your brother, sister, in laws, spouse, friends, even your own mother or father. But if it is hurting us, we need to stop it before we get consumed by it.
Picture yourself locked in a room with no air. How long do you think you will survive?
Now picture yourself in the open, breathing fresh air. That, my dear friends is LIFE. It is meant to be lived and not played.
Letting go of relationships that cause us hurt and pain, is not a crime. It is just giving ourselves permission to breathe fresh air.
The mind will start functioning a lot better and it will give us the power to believe in ourselves.
There are a lot of relations that make us feel inferior, feel small, worthless and unwanted, no matter how hard we try to do the right thing, we will always be made to feel wrong.
Stop and think about the times you have failed to impress others!
If you have been made to feel this way no matter how hard you've tried, then you are not in a healthy relationship.
You are in a relationship that constantly demands you to do better.
But you are not here in this world to perform better in your relationships. You are here for yourself. Focus on yourself. Make yourself a happy person. Believe in the love you have for your friends, your mother, father, brother, spouse , kids etc.
I do not mean that you turn all rebellious , pack your suitcase and call Uber to run away!
I mean that you need to prove nothing to anyone. The ones that love you, will know your heart.
This is exactly what I mean by letting go . It means stop carrying the burden of someone else’s expectations. It means choosing the kind of job you want to do, doing what you are passionate about ,not what your parents chose for you, ( not applicable if you want to be a drug lord or something like that....hehehe).It means sitting down on the couch with a cup of tea and reading a book if that’s what you want to do, instead of wondering what your mother in law would think of you( especially if it is your turn to do the dishes..hmmm.. anyway you got the point!
It means spending an extra buck on the dress you like without wondering what your savings freak husband would think of you.
If your father makes you feel like a loser in every conversation, call him once a week , instead of everyday. Don't kill yourself with guilt. Use the days you do not call him to build positivity in your life.
Once you believe in yourself, these relationships will automatically learn to adjust to the new and improved you. If not, they were never worth it!
So give yourself a break. Avoid all that negativity, breathe a little fresh air, take a cup of tea and what the heck, go shopping for that pretty dress and switch off the phone if you are expecting another whining call from whoever.
You live only once, In a 100 years, no one will care about how perfect you were or how many tears you cried because all will be dead by then. LOL!!
Just LIVE , don't Play ..and don't get Played!